Learn to unlearn-Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

A rare conversation between Ramkrishna Paramahansa & Swami Vivekananda

Swami Vivekanand:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

 

Swami Vivekanand:- Why has life become complicated now?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.

 

Swami Vivekanand:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

 

Swami Vivekanand:– Why do good people always suffer?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.

With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

 

Swami Vivekanand:- You mean to say such experience is useful?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons .

 

Swami Vivekanand:– Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

 

Swami Vivekanand:– Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

 

Swami Vivekanand:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

 

Swami Vivekanand:- What surprises you about people?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”

 

Swami Vivekanand:– How can I get the best out of life?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

 

Swami Vivekanand:– One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:– There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Aneeksha- Bringing happiness, Spreading Smiles & Igniting Belief

Hi Friends I am here talking about an initiative started by B.CRETA Foundation where we are planning to support & spread happiness this Diwali & New Year in the life of those community members & poor kids who are not financially strong enough to enjoy with the same privileges’ like you and me.

B.CRETA Foundation initiative Aneeksha is to provide and ignite the sense of happiness and smiles in their life.

We have planned to distribute Crackers, Sweets, & new clothes to 1 lakh + kids & poor families living on streets, juggis & daily wages workers.

I am here to generate funds for the same your help can bring joy & smiles in their lives

You can donate any sum of money for this cause and we will be more than happy to share about your contribution & also will share the pictures of those moments where your contribution has brought a smile & became a reason of Joy for someone who was in need.

We want to make them believe and follow that

“God has planted a seed in you. Believe in Him and you will sprout beautifully for Him.”

Estimated budget per family

A pack of Eco friendly Crackers –Rs,500 ( till Diwali)

1kg Sweet –Rs.280

Clothes – Rs 1100 per family

Ration & Food- Rs. 500 per family

Our target is to reach to 500 families and 2lakh kids force to work or beg instead of studying. Gratitude

Your Small Contribution will help in spreading smiles join us in our mission to spread smiles our campaign This Diwali & New Year #Spreadingsmiles 

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The Ten Decalogue of Life

The Ten Decalogue of Life

Please read carefully and relate these 10 Decalogue with your life….you may enjoy more.

1) Heavy rains remind us of challenges in life. Never ask for a lighter rain. Just pray for a better umbrella. That is attitude.

2) When flood comes, fish eat ants & when flood recedes, ants eat fish.Only time matters. Just hold on, God gives opportunity to everyone!

3) Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship, it’s not how we care in the beginning, but how much we care till ending.

4) Some people always throw stones in your path. It depends on you what you make with them, Wall or Bridge? Remember you are the architect of your life.

5) Every problem has (n+1) solutions, where n is the number of solutions that you have tried and 1 is that you have not tried. That’s life.

6) It is not important to hold all the good cards in life. But it’s important how well you play with the cards which you hold.

7) Often when we lose all hope & think this is the end, God smiles from above and says, `Relax dear it’s just a bend. Not the end’. Have Faith and have a successful life.

8) When you are sad, try to cheer up just go to the mirror and say, `Damn I am really so cute` and you will overcome your sadness. But don’t make this a habit coz liars go to hell.

9) One of the basic differences between God and human is, God gives, gives and forgives. But human gets, gets, gets and forgets. Be thankful in life!

10) Only two types of persons are happy in this world. First is Mad and second is Child. Be Mad to achieve what you desire and be a Child to enjoy what you have achieved.

A crab was once running on sea shore n was admiring its beautiful footprints….suddenly a huge wave splashed n washed away the footprints…

The crab said to the wave: I considered u as one of my best friends; then what made u do this

The wave replied: A fisherman was following your footprints; that’s why I cleared off…..

“Relationships mean caring beyond imagination”

Value them & don’t doubt the intensions!!

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Who packs Your Parachute!!!

“Air Commodore Vishal was a Jet Pilot. In a combat mission his fighter plane was destroyed by a missile. He however ejected himself and parachuted safely. He won acclaims and appreciations from many.

After five years one day he was sitting with his wife in a restaurant. A man from another table came to him and said “You’re Captain Vishal ! You flew jet fighters. You were shot down!”

“How in the world did you know that?” asked Vishal.

“I packed your parachute,” the man smiled and replied.

Vishal gasped in surprise and gratitude and thought if parachute hadn’t worked, I wouldn’t be here today.

Vishal couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about that man. He wondered how many times I might have seen him and not even said ‘Good morning, how are you?’ or anything because, he was a fighter pilot and that person was just a Constable.”

So friends, who is packing your parachute?

Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day.

We need many kinds of parachutes when our plane is shot down – we need the physical parachute, the mental parachute, the emotional parachute, and the spiritual parachute.

We call on all these supports before reaching safety.

Sometimes in the daily challenges that life gives us, we miss what is really important.

We may fail to say hello, please, or thank you, congratulate someone on something wonderful that has happened to them, give a compliment, or just do something nice for no reason.

As you go through this week, this month, this year, recognize the people who pack your parachute!!!

To My Teacher’s & Mentor’s With Love

Learnt many things in life being ‘Eklavya’. Thanks to all those ‘Dronacharya’ I came across.

– The Reflection Success or Stress Choose Wisely

Well today I am sharing this article as a small dedication from my mentors and writing from there prospective about the qualities I have learned from them. For me it’s difficult to put it in words about the importance of their roles in sharpening up my life therefore just a honest try to put few things I learned in words.

Well the only thing which I learned and helped me grow in my life was Mentoring. It’s very important to have mentors in life who can nurture you and convert you from raw material to an awesome product.

Compassion, patience, preservance, ability; thy name is a Mentor

However I believe that we all are students in this world so keeping myself as a student I am writing and dedicating this post to my mentors.

This is what I have learned from my mentors and when I coach people I try to inculcate the same points in their system.

If I have to sum it up I have learned the following key points from them at different stages

Support, encouragement, friendship – Well we all need to be supportive in our lives no matter what role we are playing. The person who can encourage others towards reaching their goals will always succeed in any form of work because he has the art of creating leaders. A mentor who can scold you as a critic and support you as friend is the biggest asset towards the success you can achieve in your life.

Help with teaching strategies/subject knowledge: Many a times in life we get stuck into situations where we need an expert advice to get out of it. A good mentor is always ready to coach and impart the subject knowledge which we lack and help us in understanding & creating the strategies.

Discussing, sharing ideas –It’s important to have a vision and a dream. However it’s more important to have a Mentor with whom you can share your ideas and discuss its pros and cons .I always say no idea in this world is useless but it depend on the person with whom you shared that idea.

Feedback, constructive criticism – Criticism is something which you can get for free from any person but constructive criticism which will help you in growing will always comes from a person who care about your growth and it’s your Mentor.

Career affirmation, advancement, commitment – for all these factors in this competitive world we need right people to guide us, sometimes when we don’t have a mentor we fall for the traps and later we realize the old quote All that glitters is not gold

Reflection –This is the most important point and I proudly say I am the reflection of my mentors. They were never interested to influence me but they were interested in sharpening my skills and abilities and to become a leader like them. They all are great leaders however I am still just a leader who is just a reflection of those great individuals who made me realized the best art you can teach anyone is the art of mentoring ; creating leaders.

“Better Than A Thousand Days Of Diligent Study Is One Day With A Great Mentor…”

My book The Reflection Success or Stress Choose Wisely is dedicated to the teachings & knowledge which I have learned from all these great personalities & how it has helped me shaped my life towards Peaceful Progress & helping others.

“If I hadn’t had mentors, I wouldn’t be here today. I’m a product of great mentoring, great coaching

The line between Respect and Fear

A Gangster was asked why he carried a gun. He replied:“Before I had this gun, I didn’t get any respect. Now I do.”

Well this line tells all .This article is not about us as professionals its about us as a role model as a brother sister or as Parents.

In a recent survey I spoke to many parents and teachers and I found out that they believe if a child obeys them, or says “Yes, Sir/ No, Sir,” it means the child respects them. Several teachers have told me they felt more respected when there was more ‘discipline’ in the classrooms.

There is a danger in mislabeling fear as respect. To use an analogy, consider what would happen if two jars in the medicine cabinet were mislabeled. What if poison Liq ARSENIC was labeled as cough syrup, or acid as contact lens cleaner?

Here are some comparisons between fear and respect:

• Fear is toxic.
• Respect is nurturing.
• Fear destroys self-confidence. Respect builds it.
• Fear is life-threatening. Respect is life-enhancing.
• Fear is forced. Respect is earned.
• Fear is learned. Respect is earned

To confuse the two creates serious problems for society. Fear and respect are very similar feelings, as anyone who’s heard a ghetto kid use the terms interchangeably can attest to. But they’re not the same. Where is the border between fear and respect, or rather, how are they related to each other?

Respect always involves at least a bit of low level fear or at least the potential for it. That is, one cannot feel true respect someone or something that isn’t capable of adversely affecting him. Respect also has other ingredients. It’s kind of like liking and fearing someone at the same time. If you look at the root of the word (“look back” in Latin), this makes sense. Respecting someone is like constantly looking back over your shoulder at someone following you, always making sure they’re never too far or too close.

Fear is a purer emotion. It’s simply the recognition that someone or something has the potential to harm you, and nothing more. It doesn’t involve the complex mix of attraction and avoidance that respect does — it simply makes people want to get away from the object of fear ASAP, and stay away.

There is no respect (or love) in fearing someone, or vice versa. There’s only a response to a perceived danger, and a change in attitude one adopts in the desire to escape that danger or to befriend what one perceives as a `greater power’ in order to be a part of it rather than its target.

Real respect is in empathy and understanding, of two different people on a level ground, looking straight at each other — not in a top-dog/under-dog relationship, where one is looking up at the other, and then away, as the other is looking down at him.

It is important for a parent to be an authority figure and not a tyrant.

When you respect someone, you value them and what they have to share. When you fear the person, you do what they say to do to prevent consequences. Fear does not allow the child to develop and grow. They don’t learn how to become independent thinkers, make decisions or express themselves in a relationship that is kept together by fear.

So it’s our choice what we create in minds of our children’s, brothers, sisters, nephews etc.

“Respect is reverence out of love; Fear is reverence out of hate. Choose Wisely” 
― Abhishek Shukla,  The Reflection “Success
or Stress”Choose Wisely

My Book The Reflection Success or Stress “Choose Wisely”-Raising Funds for poor students education-

Hi Everyone, Author Abhishek Shukla has launched his new book, The Reflection “Success or Stress”… Choose Wisely Which is now available on Amazon This book is a reflection of author’s life packed with valuable lessons learnt from celebrity mentors and professional gurus in his life. With this book get to know why the teachings of his mentors were so special that he decided to pen down a book and keep it till eternity.

Link: THE REFLECTION

This book has been written in a unique and simple way. Every teaching has been explained in simple words clubbed with a beautiful story to help us to learn the desired lesson in the best possible way.

These teachings and inspiration are worth applying in our lives. They have helped a boxer to achieve his life’s goals, gave strength to fight with his prolonged disease which once had taken a toll on him and gave him a partial paralysis attack. The disease is still so much there in him, troubling day and night but he has love and prayers of his family, motivation of his mentors and gurus which has made him to stand back on his feet, these learning have supported him to throughout his thick and thins of life.

This book is the reflection of author’s struggle and success in life so far, which has some real life incidents, lessons learnt from mentors and professional gurus from growing up to growing old. You will get to read many interesting phases of author’s life; some occurred to let him down, some occurred to give him strength, strength when it was most required, the time when author was battling with life.

He dedicate it to all his mentors  Anupam Kher ,Dr.Kiran bedi, Gerry Roberts, Suhel Seth and more. 

The chapters are clubbed with a beautiful story which can help you inculcate the thought in the best possible way for rest of your life. Remember folk’s life is all about storytelling and it depends on us how we shape the future of coming generations. Either we can show them the path towards Peaceful progress or we can force them also towards stressful success.

You will find significant breakthroughs to live a life of your choice.

Life is not to forget but to forgive, not to see but understand, not to hear but to listen, not to let go but HOLD ON!!! A serious disappointment might be a blessing in disguise, who knows. Always learn how to make the best of every situation.

All the amount collected from the sale of this book will be contributed to B CRETA FOUNDATION to support over 500 young kids for life long Education. I will request all my friends, bloggers & readers to Support me in this noble cause by purchasing or sharing it with those who want to contribute in this noble deed.

I will request you all to please support in raising funds as it will help them to continue there education & attain success in life.

Thanks & Regards,

Abhishek Shukla”If we teach today’s students as we taught yesterday’s, we rob them of tomorrow”

(Director & Co-Founder at CRETA HR Solutions P Ltd)

Author, Psychologist, Motivational Speaker, Political Consultant & Mentor

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